April 12, 2018
Mere Objects: Fragments of a Four Loko can and a shattered compact mirror - the broken remains of two gifts this young woman once received from her abuser and his girlfriend. She describes the act of breaking that mirror as a great weight lifted.
She writes, "I don't know if I will ever be able to call myself a survivor. I'm not a victim anymore, but there is no word between the two that I know of. When I talk about the violence that was inflicted upon me, I am somebody who was raped twice."
"… Living with trauma is complicated. The most encapsulating quote I have found to truly express my thoughts on it came from [Twitter user] @eboneedavis: 'I don't think the healing process ever ends. I just think there comes a time when you decide that your wounds aren't going to stop you from becoming the person you want to be. Self love is a lifelong journey & sometimes it's harder than others. You just have to commit.'"
My sister, my friend - may this lifelong journey of healing unfold before you with an abundance of rich and unexpected gifts, and may you discover within yourself the beautiful, whole, and beloved person you were always meant to be.
(Sorry about the poor photo quality, folks! This object was assembled in a workshop at Calvin College & I wanted to add it into the exhibition right away. I'll be re-photographing it in my home studio when this exhibition wraps up in a few weeks.)